How would you know if your lover is a player?

A player

It hurts! The very idea that your lover might be playing on you strikes terror in your heart but the thought keeps eroding. Is he unfaithful? Is he a player? Is he looking for someone else?

There are many ways to tell and you don’t need to hire a private investigator or someone to look after him. In fact, guts, emotions and vibes will do! =) ,but tactics and techniques to know if your lover is a player are the best.

          The techniques and tactics used to deceive mates vary. The signs may be hidden or right in front of you. Only you can pick up many of them, because you know your mate better than anybody. If you are observant, what, when, where, why and how your mate does things can tell you when something isn't right. The signs of playing can be broken down into three categories: hidden signs, emotional signs, and physical evidence. Here are some examples of each:

            Hidden Signs: Your lover is always late, has vehicle troubles, and unexplained absences. Your mate tells fishy-sounding stories about working odd hours. Your mate won't answer the cell phone or pager when you're around, uses a public telephone frequently, or receives a lot of phone calls that are wrong numbers. Your mate comes home with grass stains on his or her clothing.

          Emotional Signs: Your mate is more attentive to your needs than usual and even buys you lots of gifts. Your mate's taste in music suddenly changes. Your mate picks fights with you and criticizes you. Your mate is easily offended at comments you make. Your mate stops saying "I love you" and stops being affectionate.

Physical Evidence: Your mate's car may hold real evidence. The passenger seat is in a different position. It has unfamiliar footprints inside. You find strange jewelry or clothing or gift-wrapping paper inside. Also, your mate may make unexplained ATM withdrawals, won't let you see the credit card bill, or comes home smelling better than when he or she left the house.

Playing is more common than you might think. Men tend to cheat or play for physical reasons; women plays for emotional ones. Although people of all ages cheat, the most common time in life to stray is between the ages of 23 and 45. According to The Associated Press, 22 percent of men have had an affair at least once in their married lives, while 14 percent of married women have done so. And they got away with it for the most part. Fully 70 percent of married women and 54 percent of married men had no idea their spouse cheated on them.