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You’re of age and you got a job and most of all, you set your own curfew. But the thing is, you also still wake up to the smell of pancakes and eggs in the morning and find your newly dry-cleaned clothes in the closet.

Isn’t this the perfect life? Or is it, really.

I’m not against living with the parents and cohabitating with them actually has many benefits.  You get to eat perfectly cooked meals every evening and you don’t have to worry going to the dry-cleaners every week or every other day because your soiled clothes are being washed mostly every single day.

But there comes a certain age in life where you feel the need to live alone and make it on your own, even if it means leaving the old comforts of home behind.  But there are times that our beloved parents are hesitant to let us go or at least appear to be hesitant even though something in them whispers that they really want us to leave the house.

So, what can we do make a suave exit from the good, old house without appearing that we don’t like to live there anymore or without letting our parents feel that we don’t want to see them everyday or without making them feel that they are unconsciously pushing us away.

1.    Get a good-paying job

Surely, you can’t move out and live on your own if you don’t have a good-paying that will let you pay the rent and the other bills. Make sure to let your parents know that you have a decent job with a good pay.

2.    Start making your breakfast.

Or at least appear to make one.  Once they see that you can make it on your own, they might be satisfied and comforted to let you live by yourself. Or make them breakfast once in a while.  The focus here is to let them see that you can now do for yourself the things they used to do for you.

3.    Book them at a vacation spot.  

Asking for their permission to let you move out is like courting a girl.  You have to make them feel valued and appreciated.  And one way of making them valued and appreciated is to book them a vacation at a luxurious destination.  But while you’re busy at work, trying to look for a prospective place and making meals by yourself, how can you look for the perfect spot? Google can help or try subscribing to luxury vacation newsletters so that you’ll have automatic updates and a number of destinations to choose from.  

4.    Buy them something they want for so long.

This seems like an obvious bribery but the key is to give in small packages.  If it’s too grand, then the intentions are too glaring.  If your dad has been wishing for new lawn mower, then go and give him a new one.  Or if your mom has been wearing the same apron for the past 4 years, then, go ahead and buy her one.  Little things do count.

5.    Get a job miles away from home.

Now, this is the most effective part, I think.  If you’ll bag a job that’s oceans apart from your folks, then, they will really have no choice but to let you go.

6.    Sign them up to social clubs

Pushing them softly into the social circle will definitely make the transition better.  SIgn them for ballroom or cooking clubs or socio-economic organizations. Once they’re with other couples who also don’t live with their children anymore, then they’ll realize that it’s the time to regain the house to themselves again.

Not saying here that your folks will give you the hardest time when you show signs that you want to live independently but admit it,   it’s hard for both sides to flee home.  If they see that you’re capable and you feel you can spread your wings and you want to establish your life by your own, then moving out won’t be such stressing.  Lastly,  there's nothing wrong in moving out nor staying with  them  for all your lifetime.  It all depends on what you prefer.  Family will always be family and you will always have a home with them.